In regard to “Waging your War” against the other spouse
Do not look upon a divorce as a “war” unless it becomes one. Diffuse the situation of a “problem" divorce. Learn to become emotionally detached and treat it as you would any other business negotiation. You want to settle your case out of court in order to avoid the embarrassment and mental anguish that comes along with a public display of your personal problems, and you want to shield your children and yourself from becoming an unwitting victim of the court system.

The Court will tell you that you and your spouse can best fashion a settlement that will work for your family. That does not mean however that you must dispense with retaining an attorney to help you prepare your case to be in a better bargaining position with your spouse.

Prepare yourself for your first visit to the attorneys office, how to be cost effective in prosecuting your case, how to assume a proactive role in its ultimate disposition. Remember, divorce is "forever" and it is very difficult to "renegotiate your case once you have settled. Therefore, preparation is key to getting what you want now.

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